Trauma. Healing.

Over the weekend I watched the new Kylie documentary on Netflix.  What struck me was just how confident Kylie is in everything she says and does, it is obvious, at least to me that Kylie grew up in a loving household.  I watched Kylie cavorting about and realised that her level of confidence is next level and that comes from a place where she was celebrated for the wonderful wee soul she is.

When I talk to clients about their own lives it becomes quite apparent that those who did not receive the same level of love and patience struggle far more than those who did.  I had a man recently explain how his father had sat him down to explain women and sex and love – it was so beautiful and the effect of that talk stayed with him throughout his life.

The man who told me his father beat him, berated him, humiliated and ignored him will sob in my arms at the feelings of sorrow and I, in turn, will pour every little bit of empathy into his soul if he will let me.  Adults simply fail to understand the unresolved trauma they plonk on their beloved little babies.  It is almost as if as adults we just say … ah well, I am who I am and that is that.  Well, snap out of it babydoll – you have work to do.

If you are an adult with trauma, emotional wounds and whatnot that you refuse to even look at then you are doomed to act out for the rest of your life.  What a waste! It isn’t easy.  Trust me, I know because I have had to deal with my own trauma’s and whatnots.  I have sat in a puddle of tears wishing I had someone to hold me together.  But.  Either way, we need to deal with the shit we have been dealt with.  A x