The. Overnight.

On occasion there will be a request for an overnight stay - it is not something I take on willy-nilly - twelve hours can be a long time with the wrong person. Ed  is someone who has visited on and off for the past few years.  Ed  is the…

Trauma. Healing.

Over the weekend I watched the new Kylie documentary on Netflix.  What struck me was just how confident Kylie is in everything she says and does, it is obvious, at least to me that Kylie grew up in a loving household.  I watched Kylie cavorting…

Prostitution.

Many's the time I have had clients ask if I know this girl or that girl which I find almost laughable because I don't know a single soul who does what I do.  Perhaps it is like being a plumber and customers all imagining they know each other. …

Porn Induced. Fetish.

In porn addiction forums online, I read all the time about teenagers who say that they have compulsively used porn and masturbation for years, starting very young. The average age for first exposure to pornography used to be 11 years old, but…

Compulsive. Behaviour.

Some signs that one may have compulsive sexual behaviour include: Having repeated and intense sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviours that take up a lot of time and feel as if they’re beyond one’s control. Feeling driven or having frequent…

Kink. v Fetish.

There are often areas of overlap between kinks and fetishes. Still, the key difference between the two is that a fetishist (someone with a fetish) cannot achieve pleasure or sexual arousal without their fetish object or act. The definition of…

Male. Menopause.

Facing the reality of male menopause Male menopause, or andropause, isn’t just a myth. About 2 in 10 men over the age of 60 suffer from low testosterone levels. This number increases to 3 in 10 men in their 70s and 80s. Symptoms such as reduced…

Female. Menopause.

Menopause is a natural, biological transition in a woman’s life that marks the end of her childbearing years. In the New Zealand, the average age of onset is 51 although it can happen in a woman’s 40s. When women enter menopause, their…

Body. Confidence.

Body confidence isn’t just about what you see in the mirror — it’s about what’s happening in your mind. The quiet thoughts. The instant judgments. The stories we tell ourselves. “How did I let my body get like this?” “My…

Introducing. James.

Guiding people back to connection, clarity, and confidence — through lived experience, compassion, and honest conversation. With over 45 years of life experience across different countries, cultures, and relationships, I bring a grounded,…